Intimacy Differences Between Husband and Wife (From:Happy Muslim Family, By:Irfan Ullah Khan)

Allah has created men and women differently. One of the most pronounced differences between genders when it comes to issues of intimacy is arousal. Each gender has been keyed to respond to different senses.  If a couple wishes to maximize feelings of closeness and intimacy, it is essential that each party understands the other’s arousal mechanism. For men, the primary sense of arousal is physical. Seeing the figure, smelling the aroma, and touching the body of a woman is what arouses a man. When a man’s physical needs are satisfied, he is most likely to reciprocate with emotional responses. For a woman, on the other hand, the primary sense of arousal is emotional. Feeling loved, appreciated and cared for are the underlying emotional factors that will mostly make the woman love back in return. When a woman’s emotional needs are satisfied, she is more likely to reciprocate with physical responses. One of the biggest sources of conflict in a marriage is this simple lack of understanding. Women feel used when their husbands take advantage of them physically but ignore their emotional needs.  On the other hand, men feel frustrated that their wives are so withdrawn and cold during acts of intimacy, complaining both at the quantity and quality of these acts.  Both parties need to give more of what the other party wants, in order to receive back what they themselves desire. A marriage is a give-and-take relationship. It is a two way street. You must give the best of what your partner wants in order to obtain the best of what you wish to receive.  Conclusion: Men need to learn to be more sensitive and understanding, and women need to learn to be more physical. --------- About Happy Muslim Family HappyMuslimFamily.net is an effort to help muslim spouses live their family life according to the Shariah ahkam that instill contentment in the family lives as mentioned by Allah (subhanuhu wa ta'ala): "And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquility in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought." (Al Quran 30:21) This tranquility in the Muslim families is missing today, in an era where we are deeply affected by the Western way of life and their corrupt concepts. HappyMuslimFamily.net is an effort to educate the Muslim spouses to eradicate these corrupt western concepts and replace them with the pure concepts of Islam, in the light of Quran and Sunnah. Knowing these Islamic concepts and acting on them will result in tranquility in our homes and the society as well. For any questions or feedback, you can always contact us atinfo@happymuslimfamily.net May Allah bless all Muslim brothers and sisters with tranquility and happiness in their family life! Irfan Ullah Khan Co-Founder Happy Muslim Family Grandma Jeddah's Successfull Muslim Marriage provides Muslim mothers with the wisdom and ways to stay married . . . through the difficult times, Insha'Allah. Visit her website and store for more helpful tips on Staying Together http://www.grandmajeddah.com http://shop.grandmajeddah.com/