Monday, December 29, 2014

8 Essentials for a Successful Marriage From:Becoming Minamalist, by JOSHUA BECKER

8 Essentials for a Successful Marriage

http://www.becomingminimalist.com/8-essentials-for-a-successful-marriage/

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Saturday, December 27, 2014

Need Help Forgiving Your Spouse

Need Help Forgiving Your Spouse
Video - Forgiveness vs. Retaliation in Islam - Yasir Qadhi
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uz6N00Ioqws

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Saturday, December 20, 2014

New Self-Help e-book for Teens . . . Next Week, insha'Allah


You heard it when the kids were toddlers:  “You think the terrible twos are bad . . .  just wait until they are teens!”

Well now your kids are teens and boy were they right! You never imagined it would be this difficult. Of course no isolated book has all the solutions to help your teen with his or her life problems. But Grandma Jeddah’s newest e-book, Mom, I’m stressed: Stress Help for Muslim Teens and Youth,  is a step in the right direction, insha'Allah.

Look for it next week, insha'Allah!

Grandma Jeddah is the mother of 11 children and 13 grandchildren. She has taught hundreds of students for over 30 years at an Islamic school in Los Angeles, California.She is the author of, Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline Your Muslim Child--And Keep Your Peace of Mind while at It.  Order her e-book or Subscribe to her free newsletter at --http://shop.grandmajeddah.com/  and  http://www.grandmajeddah.com/subscribe-page.html

7 Simple Secrets to an Amazing Relationship (From Huffington Post, By: Dr. Carmen Harra)

7 Simple Secrets to an Amazing Relationship (From Huffington Post, By: Dr. Carmen Harra)
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/dr-carmen-harra/7-simple-secrets-to-an-am_b_6028726.html

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Wednesday, December 17, 2014

Want a Happy Marriage? Be Nice. Don't Nitpick (From:WebMd, By: Jeanie Davis)

Want a Happy Marriage? Be Nice. Don't Nitpick (From:WebMd, By: Jeanie Davis)
http://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/features/happy-marriage-no-nitpicking

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Sunday, December 14, 2014

Making Marriage Work: The Missing Link to Success (From:MuslimVillage.com, By: Yasmin Mogahed)

Making Marriage Work: The Missing Link to Success (From:MuslimVillage.com, By: Yasmin Mogahed)
http://muslimvillage.com/2012/09/04/27905/making-marriage-work-the-missing-link-to-success/

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Sunday, December 7, 2014

55 Ways to Maintain a Happy Marriage (From: Sunni Forum

55 Ways to Maintain a Happy Marriage (From: Sunni Forum)

http://www.sunniforum.com/forum/showthread.php?1929-*-55-Ways-to-Maintain-a-Happy-Marriage-*

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Friday, December 5, 2014

Tips for Your Muslim Marriage-Rights and Responding to Challenges (From:IqraSense.com)

Tips for Your Muslim Marriage-Rights and Responding to Challenges (From:IqraSense.com)
http://www.iqrasense.com/muslim-character/two-tips-for-your-muslim-marriage.html

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Tuesday, December 2, 2014

10 Super cool tips to keep your husband happy (From: Muslim Marriage Advice)

10 Super cool tips to keep your husband happy (From: Muslim Marriage Advice)
http://www.muslimmarriageadvice.com/10-super-cool-tips-to-keep-your-husband-happy/

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Saturday, November 29, 2014

How to Keep a Successful Marriage (From:Living Islam, By: Imam Moustafa Zayd)

How to Keep a Successful Marriage (From:Living Islam, By: Imam Moustafa Zayd)
http://www.onislam.net/english/reading-islam/living-islam/islam-day-to-day/family/457820-how-to-keep-a-successful-islamic-marriage.html

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Monday, November 24, 2014

Win His Heart: A Psychological and Islamic Approach for Women (From: MuslimMarriageAdvice, By Haleh Banani, MA Clinical Psychology),

Win His Heart: A Psychological and Islamic Approach for Women (From: MuslimMarriageAdvice, By Haleh Banani, MA Clinical Psychology), 
http://www.muslimmarriageadvice.com/win_his_heart/

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Friday, November 21, 2014

Barriers to Effective Communication in a Marriage ( From:Life123, By: Rachel Mork)

Barriers to Effective Communication in a Marriage ( From:Life123, By: Rachel Mork)
http://www.life123.com/relationships/communication/effective-communication/barriers-to-effective-communication-2.shtml

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Sunday, November 16, 2014

[Family Life - Part 1] Tips on Building a Productive Muslim Household (From:Productive Muslim, By: Grandma Jeddah

[Family Life - Part 1] Tips on Building a Productive Muslim Household (From:Productive Muslim, By: Grandma Jeddah

http://productivemuslim.com/family-life-part-1-tips-on-building-a-productive-muslim-household/#utm_source=ProM-Website&utm_medium=ProM-Website&utm_campaign=Website-Interlinking



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Friday, November 7, 2014

Marriage: Gods Gift to Humanity (From: OnIslam, By: Raya Shockatfard

Marriage: Gods Gift to Humanity (From: OnIslam, By: Raya Shockatfard)
http://www.onislam.net/english/reading-islam/living-islam/islam-day-to-day/family/455038-marriage-gods-gift-to-humanity.html

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Monday, November 3, 2014

Why is Divorce on the Rise Among U.S. Muslims (By: Suzana Nabil Saad)

Why is Divorce on the Rise Among U.S. Muslims (By: Suzana Nabil Saad)
http://www.onislam.net/english/reading-islam/living-islam/islam-day-to-day/family/461407-divorce-on-the-rise-among-us-muslims.html

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Thursday, October 30, 2014

Tips to a Better Marriage (From: IslamicWorld, By: Sr. Muntaqimah A. Rashid)

Tips to a Better Marriage (From: IslamicWorld, By: Sr. Muntaqimah A. Rashid)
http://islamic-world.net/sister/tips.htm

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Wednesday, October 29, 2014

On Saving the Institution of Marriage (From: On Islam, By: Sheikh Ahmad Kutty)

On Saving the Institution of Marriage (From: On Islam, By: Sheikh Ahmad Kutty)
http://www.onislam.net/english/reading-islam/living-islam/islam-day-to-day/family/461575-on-saving-the-institution-of-marriage.html

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Saturday, October 25, 2014

Marriage: A Sacred Bond (From: OnIslam, By Shahul Hameed)

Marriage: A Sacred Bond (From: OnIslam, By Shahul Hameed)
http://www.onislam.net/english/reading-islam/understanding-islam/ethics-a-values/social-sphere/429342.htmlhttp://www.onislam.net/english/reading-islam/understanding-islam/ethics-a-values/social-sphere/429342.html

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Tuesday, October 21, 2014

How to Manage anger and Maintain Peace at Home (From:Living Islam, By: Sadaf Farooqi)

How to Manage anger and Maintain Peace at Home (From:Living Islam, By: Sadaf Farooqi)
http://www.onislam.net/english/reading-islam/living-islam/islam-day-to-day/family/461350-how-to-manage-anger-and-maintain-peace-at-home.html

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Friday, October 17, 2014

Through Your Man's Heart to Jannah (By Nourin Ibrahim)

Through Your Man's Heart to Jannah (By Nourin Ibrahim)
https://www.facebook.com/notes/happy-muslim-family/through-your-mans-heart-to-jannah-by-nourin-ibrahim/484081021624695


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Sunday, October 12, 2014

ISLAMIC SOLUTION TO DEPRESSION (by Shaykh Omar Baloch)

Are you Suffering Through Depression? "Depression of one spouse usually affects the other and the marriage" says Shaykh Omar Baloch.
Find out some causes of depression and learn Islamic ways of managing your depression.
http://www.fiqh.org/resources/depression/

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Monday, October 6, 2014

Comfort and Contentment in Marital Relationships (From:On Islam, By: Mahbubar Rahman)

Comfort and Contentment in Marital Relationships
"Let us not forget that happiness is not a matter of ‘entitlement’ in marriage—to get it, we have to work for it."
http://www.onislam.net/english/reading-islam/living-islam/islam-day-to-day/family/455327-comfort-and-contentment-in-marital-relationship.html

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Tuesday, September 30, 2014

It's Not All About the Kids (From: Fulltime Muslim Mommy and Wife)

It's Not All About the Kids (From: Fulltime Muslim Mommy and Wife)
Freshen up your marriage!
http://fulltimemuslimmommyandwife.blogspot.com/

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Monday, September 29, 2014

Guest Interview of Brother Nisaar Nadiadwala, Author of I WANT TO MARRY, BUT. . .

Guest Interview of Brother Nisaar Nadiadwala, Author of I WANT TO MARRY, BUT. . .
Find out what inspired him to write I WANT TO MARRY, BUT . . .
http://www.grandmajeddah.com/tips.html

Thursday, September 25, 2014

He Prayed Instead of Fought (From:SuhaibWeb.com, By: Maryam AmirEbrahim)

He Prayed Instead of Fought (From:SuhaibWeb.com, By: Maryam AmirEbrahim)
Priceless solution for quarrels with your spouse.
http://www.suhaibwebb.com/personaldvlpt/worship/dua/he-prayed-instead-of-fought/

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Tuesday, September 23, 2014

Marriage . . . What Does that Mean to You (From: OnIslam, By: Diva Allott)

Marriage . . . What Does that Mean to You (From: OnIslam, By: Diva Allott)
After the lavish wedding . . . Then what?
http://www.onislam.net/english/reading-islam/living-islam/islam-day-to-day/family/464648-marriage-what-does-that-mean-to-you.html

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IS YOUR SON OR DAUGHTER BEING CHOKED BY THE YOKES OF MARRIAGE?


FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE
CONTACT:
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IS YOUR SON OR DAUGHTER BEING CHOKED BY THE YOKES OF MARRIAGE?
New e-Book by Nissar Nadiadwala, former Head of Islamic Research Foundation

Nissar Nadiadwala, international lecturer on Islam and former head of the Islamic Research Foundation launches his newest coaching book I Want to Marry, But available online at Grandma Jeddah’s e-Bookstore. The first 50 people to purchase the e-book receive a FREE Gift certificate for 25% off any selection from Grandma Jeddah’s Parenting and Marriage e-books, http://shop.grandmajeddah.com/http://shop.grandmajeddah.com/

“We are thrilled to be hosting brother Nisaar's masterpiece on Islamic marriage.” Says Grandma Jeddah, founder of Summit Garden Press, the e-book’s publisher. “Books like this which present a traditional Islamic perspective on marrying our youth are rare.”

Brother Nisaar’s book illustrates how Muslim youth are constantly bombarded with images of intimate and illicit relationships which heighten their desire for marriage.  Yet, they remain single, compelled to pursue higher degrees and constantly search for the perfect “Cinderella” and the enchanting “Prince Charming”!  This book is must read for parents with teens and young adults. It introduces parents to ways in which The Prophet (saw) and his companions entered in to marital relationships, and explains how important it is for parents to convey these methods to their children, in order for them to get married and eventually develop healthy and fulfilling marriages. Brother Nisaar says in his book, “Islam has offered so many options to make marriage easy and zina (adultery and fornication) difficult.”

I Want to Marry, But . . . is designed to help parents:
  • Learn a marital practice of the Sahaba which can help solve the present day problem of excessive Mahr (bridal payment).
  • Understand how to overcome the artificial barrier of age differences in marriage
  • Find out at what age your son or daughter becomes ready for marriage
  • Learn how to overcome expensive cultural marriage ceremonies
  • Find out which societal norms may be preventing your son or daughter from getting married at the proper time
  • And much, much more . . .



About the Author: Nisaar Yusuf Nadiadwala, internationally known for his work as a public speaker on Islam and interfaith dialogues,  is a former senior speaker at the Islamic Research Foundation in Mumbai, and has recently launched Trainer's Gallery, an institute that trains Muslim youth in speech and communication skills for interfaith dialogue.  Learn more about him and contact him at - nisaaryusuf.wordpress.com




Monday, September 22, 2014

New e-Book on Marrying Our Youth

New e-Book on Marrying Our Youth
Are your sons and daughters ready for marriage?


Break the Yokes that Prevent Your Sons and
Daughters from Marrying.

An enlightening refresher full of insight on the pitfalls of following
 modern day marriage practices

  • Learn a practice of the Sahaba that will help your son avoid the yoke of excessive dowry
  • Discover the most common shackles preventing your daughters from marrying.
  • Who says your daughter is too young for marriage?
 I Want to marry, But . . .   gives a fresh perspective on Marrying your sons and daughters--"Islam began as something strange, and it shall return to being something strange, so give glad tidings to the strangers." (Muslim)

Does any of this sound familiar to you?
“Marry my daughter before she's 18—you must be kidding!”
“My son hasn’t even started college yet . . . how can he get married now?”
“I can’t get married yet – my dowry isn’t big enough?”
“I want a wife who is slim, fair, and pretty.”
“If he’s not rich . . . I can’t marry him.”
“She’s too old.”  “He’s too young.”


I recommend this book to All - young and old. 

Dr. Kanwal Kaisser,Pediatrician, DirectorHamaray Bachchay,Author and Youth Coach  This is an excellent book for youth,Parents, and married couples.  It unveils the reasons behindfailed marriages and their solution. Dr. Farhat Nazneen Zafar 



This is an excellent book for youth,
Parents, and married couples.  
It unveils the reasons behind
failed marriages and their solution.


Dr. Farhat Nazneen Zafar


An exceptional and insightful book thatShould be read by all Muslim parents concerned about marrying their sons and daughters to the right person at the right time.         

Grandma Jeddah, Author of  "Discipline without Disrespecting" Founder of Peaceful Muslim Families


Order now and read it today!

A Successful Marriage: The Missing Link (By: Yasmin Mogahed)

A Successful Marriage: The Missing Link
http://www.yasminmogahed.com/2011/01/04/a-successful-marriage-the-missing-link-by-yasmin-mogahed/

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Thursday, September 18, 2014

How to Communicate Effectively when You're Angry with Your Spouse (From: Islamic World)

How to Communicate Effectively when You're Angry with Your Spouse 
(From: Islamic World)
http://www.grandmajeddah.com/marriage-conflicts.html

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Tuesday, September 16, 2014

Parental Role in Finding a Spouse for Children (From: Islamic World)

Parental Role in Finding a Spouse for Children (From: Islamic World)
http://islamic-world.net/sister/purpose_and_obligation.htm

1. Understand your role.
Your role as a mother or father is not to be the final arbiter of your child’s marriage. This may be how marriages were arranged “back home” in a Muslim country, but it is not the Islamic way. Nor is this way acceptable to most Muslims who have grown up in the West.That said, the parents have a tremendous responsibility in the process. They:
  1. Suggest individuals as prospective spouses.
  2. Thoroughly screen and check proposals, call references.
  3. Act as the third party between the two candidates.
2. Talk to your kids about what you both want.
Winnipeg, Canada-based Muslim social worker Shahina Siddiqui says parents have to sit down with their kids and openly discuss what kind of husband or wife s/he is looking for.You may live in the same household as your children and think you know them inside out, but many parents are shocked to find their kids’ ideas about who they want to marry can be drastically different from what they expected.
Marrying cousin X or Y from “back home” may just not be acceptable. Or the nice boy or girl from the local cultural community who is highly educated and very well-off financially may be of little interest to a son or daughter because of their lack of Islamic knowledge and practice.
Open-mindedness and clear communication may reveal a side of your kids that may be hard to swallow. However, you must remember that marriage primarily affects the two people involved in the relationship. They must like the person they are marrying.


3. Clearly outline the rules of meeting a potential mate.
Siddiqui says parents must set boundaries as to how and when they will meet prospective candidates. Too often, Muslims stray by thinking seeking a mate is an excuse to engage in dating. Dating occurs when a man and a woman spend time alone together. This is usually not with the intention of getting involved in a long-term or serious relationship. It is just to “have fun”. There is little to no serious discussion of future plans and/or the intention to marry.
Dating can occur amongst two Muslims seeking marriage if they want to go out alone, with no third party present to “get to know each other”. This can also develop through hours of unnecessary phone or e-mail conversations.
Setting the boundaries of meeting a prospective mate is your responsibility as a Muslim parent.The rules to remember include the following: the meeting must be chaperoned so the two are not alone together,both prospective partners are lowering the gaze and both are sticking to the topic in the course of discussions.One suggestion Siddiqui gives in this regard is to avoid late night meetings between prospective candidates and chaperones because at the end of the day, people are tired, their defenses are down. For this kind of a meeting, all parties need to be very alert.


4. Give an allotted time for the meeting.
Meetings between prospective spouses must not last for an extremely long time, like being away most of the day to meet this person. Parents should give an allotted time for the two to meet and talk.


5. Investigate thoroughly.
One of the reasons for many divorces is the lack of proper investigation of a prospective marriage partner before marriage.
Parents have this heavy responsibility of finding out as much as possible about the individual who will possibly spend the rest of their life with their son or daughter.Investigation does not mean just asking two or three family friends or community members. Deeper digging is necessary.


The case of one Imam’s daughter in the U.S. serves as a chilling example.This Imam asked a Muslim brother to check out a boy who was seeking marriage with his daughter. On the surface, all seemed fine. But upon further investigation it was discovered that he drinks alcohol. This fact was also confirmed by two other Muslims. The mediator in this case told Sound Vision that he never would have guessed, looking at the boy, that he drinks.


Aneesah Nadir, Director of Social Services for the Arizona Muslim Family Health and Social Services in Tempe provides another good way of fact checking on a proposal.
One sister she knows received a proposal from a brother who lived in a different city. To check this prospective mate out, one of her relatives went to the mosque this person attends and observed and talked to him without him knowing he was her relative. Her relative found the brother unsuitable and let her know about this.


6. Be honest.
Parents as well as individuals looking for a spouse must be honest with regards to their credentials, background and other pertinent details about their personal lives.
Inflating your son or daughter’s educational credentials, for example, will only backfire when checking reveals this is untrue.


7. Take your time.
Siddiqui stresses the importance of not rushing a son or daughter into marriage. If you find someone for your son or daughter at a two-day Islamic conference, for example, and this is the initiation of the process, more time must be given to checking facts and references.


Ideally, she says references should always be asked for and checked out before meeting in person. And this goes for boys and girls.



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Friday, September 12, 2014

Find Out a Secret of Long-Time Married Couples ( less-than-a-minute video)

Find Out a Secret of Long-Time Married Couples ( less-than-a-minute video)
Want to know a secret that long-time married couples have known for years? Find out what they know they must do at times to maintain a successful marriage, insha'Allah.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-wLNT_YogIk&feature=youtu.be

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Monday, September 8, 2014

Marriage Advice form Those Married a Long, Long, Time (From: Huffington Post, By: Ann Brenoff and Shelley

Marriage Advice form Those Married a Long, Long, Time (From: Huffington Post, By: Ann Brenoff and Shelley
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/06/13/marriage-advice-lessons-learned_n_3415642.html

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Thursday, September 4, 2014

Great Lecture from Nouman Ali Khan on developing love in the family

Great Lecture from Nouman Ali Khan on developing love in the family
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GgT3AQdv3pg


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Tips for a Happy Successful Marriage (From: Mission Islam, By: Dr. Aisha Hamdan)


Tips for a Happy Successful Marriage (From: Mission Islam, By: Dr. Aisha Hamdan)
http://www.missionislam.com/family/successfulmarraigetips.htm

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Monday, September 1, 2014

How to communicate effectively When You're Angry with Your Spouse

How to communicate effectively When You're Angry with Your Spouse

From: www.islamic-world.net/Practical Methods of Solving Problems


Conflict and problems are a part of life. How we handle our conflicts can make the difference between a peaceful and successful marriage and a horrid, unsuccessful union. It can also determine our destination in the hereafter.

In an authentic hadith reported by Imam At-tirmithi and Ibn-Majah, that he said, "A person may say a word that is pleasing to Allah (S.W.T.) and he may not think much of it, but Allah (S.W.T.) will, (because of that word), bestow his pleasure upon him on the Day of Judgment, and a person may say a word that is displeasing to Allah (S.W.T.), and he may not think much of it, but Allah will have, (because of that word) his wrath and anger on him on the Day of Judgment."

Also, Allah says in Quran,  Surat Qaf, (Verse 18),  "Not a word does he (or she) utter, but there is a watcher by him ready (to record it). 
Take note of the following article from Islam Web: Practical Methods of Solving Problems:

 It is important to remember that uttering bad words and using abusive language in the course of an argument, has an undoubtedly negative effect that lasts even after the problem is over. Furthermore, it causes emotional wounds and distress that accumulates in the heart.

Conversely, remaining silent instead of discussing a problem is also a negative and temporary solution, as it later leads to unexplained sudden and violent outbursts over trivial matters. Hence, repressing feelings is the beginning of psychological complications and gives rise to impatience. 

Therefore, either a person should pretend to forget the problem, overlook it and voluntarily forgive the other party or the problem must be tackled . . . 

Both spouses should avoid any outcome that instigates feelings of victory or defeat in either one, as this only serves to deepen the rift. For example, they should avoid mockery, denial and rejection, and insistence on winning. Further, one should watch his or her speech.

Abdullaah ibn ‘Amr ibn, may Allaah be pleased with him, reported: “The Prophet was never unseemly or lewd in his language; he used to say, ‘The best among you are those who have the best morals.’” [Al-Bukhaari] 


. . . [W]hen ‘Aa’ishah  was asked about the morals of the Prophet, she said: “The Prophet  was never rude or indecent, nor was he loud-voiced in the streets, nor did he return evil for evil, but he would forgive and pardon.” [At-Tirmithi] 


Indeed, we are warned by the Prophet, , from being “the worst person in the Sight of Allaah on the Day of Judgment”; that is“one who is avoided by people because of his evil.” [Al-Bukhaari] 1

http://www.islamic-world.net/Practical Methods of Solving Problems

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